Not About the Answers

wundy:

My goal in life is really just to be less of an asshole.

#I MEAN WE’RE ALL ASSHOLES SOME OF THE TIME #I JUST WANT TO MINIMIZE MY DOUCHINESS AS MUCH AS POSIBLE

yeah this is everything i want out of life, to not hurt people

4-year-old hit by drunk driver. Drunk driver serves six months. Mother charged and faces THREE years.

quaking-aspen:

radicallyhottoff:

sheelzebub:

[Raquel]Nelson, 30 and African-American, was convicted on the charge this week by six jurors who were not her peers: All were middle-class whites, and none had ever taken a bus in metro Atlanta. In other words, none had ever been in Nelson’s shoes:

They had never taken two buses to go grocery shopping at Wal-Mart with three kids in tow. They had never missed a transfer on the way home that caused them to wait a full hour-and-a-half with tired and hungry kids for the next bus. They had never been let off at a bus stop on a five-lane speedway, with their apartment in sight across the road, and been asked to drag those three little ones an additional half-mile-plus down the road to the nearest traffic signal and back in order to get home at last.

And they had never lost control of an over-eager four-year-old as they waited on a three-foot median for a car to pass. Nor had they watched helplessly as a driver who had had “three or four” beers and two painkillers barreled toward their child.

That’s right: Because Nelson did not lug her exhausted little ones three-tenths of a mile from the bus stop to a traffic signal in order to cross five lanes of traffic, she is guilty of vehicular homicide. Because she did as her fellow bus riders, who crossed at the same time and place, and because she did what pedestrians will do every time – take the shortest reasonable path – she is guilty of vehicular homicide.

Blog post here.

The drunk driver has a history of hit and runs.  He served six months in jail.  Nelson faces three years in jail.  Justice?

There is a petition to support her.  Please sign it.

this is what I’m talking about when I say that mothers get harsher sentences than the person who actually killed the child does. 

christ.

oh my god fuck my state

About “Productivity”:

youarenotyou:

What does it mean to be “productive”?

As someone who has struggled with life-long depression, and other problems that cause a depletion of spoons, one of the ways that I’ve shamed myself most is with this idea of productivity: feeling low when I believe I haven’t been productive enough. And I hear this a lot from other people too, especially people with disabilities.

The notion of productivity is rooted in capitalist (and, it follows, ableist) ideas about an individual’s value. It is important that we be “productive”, not only when we are at work, but at all times. And what does it mean to be productive? When we are hard on ourselves for not being productive enough, what do we mean? We can try to define what productivity means for ourselves on an individual level, but I don’t believe we can separate it from the aforementioned capitalist and ableist ideas. Especially for those of us struggling with disabilities, I think this is one of the biggest, most common, and frequently unchallenged ways of internalizing ableism and perpetuating it on ourselves and others.

Defining what productivity means might be easier if we look at what it isn’t. Sitting online all day, playing games, watching television, watching movies, sleeping, relaxing, doing anything passive – I’ve seen all of these things frequently branded as “unproductive” when people criticize themselves (or others) for how they use their non-working/unstructured time. Things that don’t have a clearly defined goal. Do you have a huge to-do list that doesn’t include taking time out of the day and being kind to yourself? Do you typically not cross off most of the things on that list, and then feel upset over it, like you’ve wasted your day?

Productivity, for you, might mean engaging in active hobbies or running errands. It might mean working non-stop at multiple jobs, constant research, having several projects on the go, organizing and initiating rallies, or conducting one workshop after another. Being “productive” never includes self care. I see many creative people who are hard on themselves for not producing enough, especially if their reason for not doing so involves mental health struggles. As if we are mini assembly lines. Subconsciously comparing ourselves to mass production factories, which we will never be able to imitate because of the limitations of being a single person.

Capitalism has seeped into our lives so deeply that we don’t even realize what we’re doing when we talk about wanting to be more productive or shame ourselves for not being productive enough. We forget to take time to relax and take care of ourselves because we are so concerned with meeting quotas in our heads for productivity. Do your self-care rituals stand in opposition to your ideas of what productivity looks like? Why isn’t it productive to take care of ourselves?

Let’s stop pushing ourselves beyond our limits. Let’s fight back against this notion of productivity, against the idea that our value lies in what we “get done” every day. Let’s start working on loving ourselves as we are and giving ourselves some breathing room.

King, where did you go? I need you to recommend me some Hank comics! We of the tumblr population miss you!

SORRY FOR THE LATE REPLY I WAS THINKING ABOUT THAT RECS LIST

Oh, I’ve been mostly just hanging out on places that…aren’t tumblr? :c
Though I made a bunch of rp fanmixes a couple days ago and have been thinking about sharing them here!

ANYWAY BUT I GOT A JOB ABOUT A MONTH AGO. Now I’m working at my local comics store/move rentals place! It’s pretty rad and pays actual money. :D

AS FOR HANK COMICS
~ S.W.O.R.D. 1-5 is the best comic ever to be prematurely cancelled, with him playing sidekick to his flawless lady, Abigail Brand. Everyone should read it everywhere. Collected in trade as X-Men - S.W.O.R.D.: No Time To Breathe! BUY IT.
~ His hanging-out-with-Molly-Hayes story in the Uncanny X-Men: Heroic Age one-shot is one of the few things Matt Fraction’s wrote that I like, and prolly features Steven Sanders’s best art of him yet published! Issue also features a Hope story by Jamie McKelvie, though the Scott story is best skipped (awful Whilce Portacio art will make that easier)
~ I have a massive affection for his run in Amazing Adventures 11-17, when he first became blue. Steve Englehart late wrote him again in Avengers starting in #137 (DEFINITELY RECOMMEND THAT ISSUE AT LEAST), but I’ve only read the first arc of that because most of it’s uncollected. (i really want to read the ones where patsy waltzes in all “HEY HANK YOU OWE ME A FAVOR AND I WANT TO BE A SUPERHERO, HOW ABOUT YOU MAKE ME HELLCAT”)
~ X-Men: Endangered Species is a story focusing on Hank’s obviously unsuccessful efforts to reverse M-Day. It’s kind of an ethically trying time for him, especially with Dark Beast coming around and pushing him to his limits. Not exactly an easy one, but I rather enjoyed it.

there are probably a million others not coming off the top of my head but those are the ones that i’ve gravitated toward the most

This is important:

skalja:

redlighted:

Uganda did not get rid of their anti-gay bill. They simply pushed the debate back until Friday. They also decided to take out punishment of death for being gay, but they replaced it with life imprisonment, so we really haven’t achieved as much as everyone wants to believe.

Read more about it:

Here
Here 
Here
Here

AAAAARGH

D:<

End of the semester T-shirt Giveaway!

skalja:

badparsiqueer:

I thought about doing this when I hit 500 followers, but the spambots are throwing off my count anyways so I’m doing it early. Because I’m nearly done with this semester. Because I’m going off to see good friends and I want to celebrate. Because I’ve got some free time on my hands. Because no one is ever going to sell t-shirts with these characters.

I’m giving away one screenprinted t-shirt, made specially for the winner.

I can’t do a custom design for the winner, because my exacto knife and painting skills are still pretty limited. But I’ve got 6 designs to choose from!

Here’s how it works. Like and reblog this post and you’ll get entered into the drawing. I’m going to Massachusetts at the end of the week and coming back in late May. When I get back, I’ll draw the name of the winner and contact you.

You can choose from the six designs below, as well as t-shirt color. Then I’ll ship your shirt off to you!


I might draw two winners, if I have the cash to make two shirts for free. I’m also looking into starting an etsy shop, where I’ll sell t-shirts but probably not comic book shirts. (I’m still looking into copyright stuff there — do all those twilight craft people just get away with it because it’s so small fry, or am I missing something?)

So without further ado, here are the designs you can choose from. (Some of the images are flipped. I think they’re still readable so I haven’t unflipped them.)

Nightwing jumping off a building!

[Green shirt with an image of Nightwing jumping off a tall building. He is wearing his skintight black costume with a ‘V’ of unpainted cloth where his costume is usually bright blue. Below him is a flock of bats, and below that is a city skyscape. The design takes up the left side and bottom of the shirt.]

Tiny Titans Cass!

[A design printed on a piece of paper. It is a simple picture of the Tiny Titans version of Cassandra Cain. She is a chibi, superdeformed figure with a large head and small body. She is dressed head to toe in black and her face is covered by a black mask with large eyes and a mouth stitched on. She is raising her arms as if to scare someone. The image is about 3-4 inches tall.]

Renee Montoya 52 design!

[A design screenprinted onto a piece of paper. It shows an image of Renee Montoya as the Question, wearing a fedora, gloves, and a jacket. She has no facial features, and she is tipping her hat at the viewers. Below her text reads “Answer the question.” The text is backwards because the photographer’s computer flipped the image. The image is about 8 inches tall and 5-6 inches wide.]

Superboy logo (okay, you can get this one online. But still.)

[An image of a black screen printed shirt. In red is the Superboy logo, a stylized ‘S’ within a diamond shape. The ‘S’ is flipped because the photographer’s computer flipped the image. The image is about 9 inches wide and 7 inches tall.]

Cass lurking in an alleyway!

[A screenprinted image on paper. The image is of Cassandra Cain as batgirl, lurking in the mouth of an alleyway. She is visible only in spooky silhouette, her cape curled around her and her pointed ears clearly visible. There is the rough image of brickwork spreading out forward from Cass, giving the image depth and making it look like the viewer is actually looking through an abstract representation of an alley. The image is about 9 inches tall and 6 inches wide.]

Jubilee being awesome!

[A screen printed image on paper. It is a simple image in three colors of Jubilation Lee. She is standing with her hands on her hips and looking unimpressed. She is wearing a black jumpsuit with a yellow collar and zipper, a bright yellow coat, and bright pink sunglasses. Her features are more abstract than realistic. The images is about 8 inches tall and 4 inches wide.]

HAPPY REBLOGGING! I’ll choose a winner on May 26th!

OMG these are all so amazing.

yesss i love these

wundygore:

[Image: Several dark-skinned individuals holding protest signs outside of what appears to be a state building.]

dutchydoescoke:anotherweasley:destroyedbymadness:lieutenant-lush:ineffabletwaddle:

nolwe-clevercloggs-coxon:

thingssheloves:

In the next 72 hours, conservative lawmakers could move a bill that would make being LGBT in Uganda a crime punishable by death.

This hateful bill is part of a pattern of the Ugandan government’s violent repression of pro-democracy forces within the country - and time is running out to stop it.

Can you please sign and share this petition demanding that Ugandan President Museveni stop the human rights violations by publicly vowing to veto the “Kill the Gays” bill?

Reblogging all day

Why does this still have fewer than 300 notes? I’m not going to say that you’re heartless if you don’t reblog this, because I hate that, but please, please take a minute or two to put your name on the petition. 

PLEASE PASS THIS ON there hasn’t been nearly enough interest and they need signatures NOW.

You know what you have to do, come on.

CAN ALL OF MY FOLLOWERS JUST REBLOG THIS RIGHT NOW?

Reblogging every time it comes on my dash.

The year 2000 as envisioned in the year 1910

iheartchaos:

In 1910, French artist Villemard produced a series of illustrations depicting what life might be like in the year 2000. Yeah, he pretty much nailed it.

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This is fantastic.

Q: So when I don’t know how a person identifies, I should always ask?

A: The Easy Answer is “yes,” but I’m not going to give you that one right now, because I think you can handle the Real Answer. The Real Answer is that in a lot of situations, the most respectful thing you can do is not need to ask.

Outside of Queer World, we know a lot about people just because they fit the same story that we’re telling. If Jane gets pregnant, we can assume it was from her husband, and if it wasn’t there’s probably a scandal to gossip about. If we meet a man named John in a suit at a party, we can usually assume that John has a penis and that he likes girls with vaginas. There’s nothing wrong with these assumptions when everyone fits the story. They stop being okay, though, when some people don’t.

Inside Queer World, we try to stop assuming. We still do it (a lot — call it human nature), but we try to remember that the stories we’re making up about people are just stories, and we try very hard not to say them out loud until they’re confirmed. The most respectful way to get someone’s real story is to listen, not to ask. If you meet someone new, and you can’t tell what their gender, sexuality, or relationship story is is right away, ask yourself how much it really matters right that moment to know the truth. Find a way to sit with the idea that maybe, this identity is a personal matter that they don’t want to talk about right then. Find a way to be okay with that. We don’t get all of these answers from each other, either, and we’re okay with that.

Then again, if it’s genuinely relevant, or if the person in question is ready and willing to field questions, go ahead and ask. Just be prepared to accept whatever they tell you, even if it doesn’t quite make sense to you, and be very respectful about it all.
Sarah Dopp, from her Frequently Asked Questions about Gender and Sexuality in Doppland. I think this goes beyond non-normative gender presentations, but also in regards to anything queer or just non-normative (like hairstyles) or general uncomfortable/unusual situations. (via bespangled)

soft-intelligence:

remnantof:

Furry Mayhem: stop harassing people over their grammar

calldullahan:

dinokitten:

libirate:

anarchoqueer:

steppingoncracks:

leave. people. alone. stop. being. mean. you. bullies.

let’s call it what it really is: often ableism, often classism, and always policing people’s speech when it’s harmless.

I object to being called ableist and classist when it’s…

omg but

nobody cares

nobody cares

nobody cares

nobody wants to be harassed about how they write

haha “i object to being called ableist and classist when i’m engaging in behavior that is ableist and classist because i am a magical being that knows everyone’s situation ever and deserves to harass people about this.”

oh ok

have fun with that

when people are like IT MAKES ME SO MAD THAT PEOPLE DON’T USE ENGLISH THE WAY IT SAYS IN THIS HERE GRAMMAR/SPELLING BOOK.  i think, wow your life must be so hard because you follow those rules. no one follows the rules!

even english doesn’t follow the actual rules

i mean the only time you can really say english must follow the rules is when it’s academia

but hey!! you know what’s classist and ableist????? ding ding ding!! YOU GUESSED IT!!! ACADEMIA!!!!

so you know what. basically, if your intended audience understands what you are saying? GOOD JOB. otherwise, screw what everyone else says about how you “should” say it.

yesssss everything softie said
though i would add that in addition to ableism and classism, it can also be an issue of racism too for many people who don’t have english as their first language

basically the point is that people need to quit being jerks about grammar
but that was the original subject line wasn’t it